I was reminded today that people talk too much. Why is there such a strong desire for us to have our opinions heard? Even if our thoughts have no bearing on the issue being discussed so often we think others need to hear our input.

I am convinced that being Jesus to others involves large amounts of listening. Along with learning to be present and learning to notice; learning to really listen to others is a ministry in need of resurrection. I have discovered that a good way to begin to be a better listener is to learn to talk less.

Many years ago I came across an acronym that has helped me to keep my mouth shut when I long to speak. It uses the letters in the word THINK to form five questions to be asked before opening our mouths and therefore keeping us from listening. When you are tempted to add your side of the story, first “THINK before you speak” and ask yourself the following questions:

T – Is it true?

Do you know for sure that what you are about to say is completely true? Or is it gossip or hearsay?

H – Is it helpful?

Are your comments helpful? Do they add to the discussion? Do your words move the discussion along in a helpful direction? Do they add to a possible solution of a problem?

I – Is it inspiring?

Are your words inspiring? Do your words encourage and build up or do they tear down? Do your words “spur one another on toward love and good deeds.”

N - Is it necessary?

Are the words you are about to speak really necessary to the discussion? This question alone should certainly increase our listening to speaking ratio.

K – Is it kind?

Are your words kind? No doubt at times our words need to be tough and confrontational, but ask what is the ultimate motive of your words. Are you speaking the truth in love? (Eph. 4:15)

“Be quick to listen and slow to speak.” James 1:19