Loss of a Loved One

After a month hiatus I am looking forward to posting regularly on the blog again. I have a backlog of missional resources and posts that I hope to start sharing in the next day or two.

I had to take a month off to finish up my dissertation. Additionally, last week my family and I were in Phoenix after the passing of my father-in-law, Dee Thompson. I conducted the memorial service on Saturday. The stories told by many of Dee’s friends presented a wonderful testimony of his influence. The whole week was an awesome reminder of the healing power that is found not only in God’s grace and mercy, but also in the presence of loved ones.

There is something wonderful and mysterious about telling stories. Over and over again as people shared what a blessing Dee had been to them I sensed great healing taking place. I was reminded how important it is for us to tell stories. In the grieving process some experience healing while sharing stories while others need to hear the stories being told.

One comment that has stuck with me came from a very close friend of Dee’s that was trying to describe the deep sense of community that their “breakfast club” experienced over the years. One line that seemed to sum up the importance of their love for another was, “A joy shared is a joy doubled and a sorrow shared is a sorrow halved.” I hadn’t heard this line before, (maybe he made it up?) but it ought to describe, at least in part, what real Christian community should be about.

Lastly, I was also reminded that during such times of loss we typically focus our attention on the grief experienced by the immediate family. While this is of course right and appropriate, we do need to be keenly aware that the loss experienced by close friends is just as deep and painful.

Dee, thank you for being a blessing to so many, and thank you for being such a wonderful father-in-law and “Papa Dee” to my two sons.